Ahhh Word of the Year 2020 time! Have you had a chance to reflect and plan yet?
The internet/world is awash with goal-setting right now, but if you’re not there yet – don’t fret! Here are a few of my favourite resources so far:
Geneva’s Word Of The Year Workbook
Set aside some time when you can, rustle up your favourite drink and dive in. There’s a LOT of value in taking a slice of time to reflect, mull things over, and plan for the year ahead.
This is the second year running that I’ve chosen a Word of the Year (WOTY), and I’ve come to like this annual ritual!
A WOTY acts as a guiding hand for the next 365 days.
It’s not a ‘goal’ as such, more of a gentle compass to help me to stay on track. I try as best I can to make choices aligned with my WOTY.
In 2019 I chose “Fulfilment”. I found that focusing on feeling ‘fulfilled’, as opposed to a tangible goal, was a positive mental shift. It helped me to focus on the ‘big picture’.
If in general I felt fulfilled, small niggles felt less poignant.
Getting married in 2019 also meant that for a lot of the year I was thinking about feeling fulfilled on a large scale.
You can’t get 60+ of your closest friends and family out to Menorca, marry your Hallmark Hunk, and have a kitchen full of “Congratuatlions!” cards without feeling pretty fulfilled. It was awesome.
In fact, it was the wedding and so many facets surrounding it which led to my WOTY 2020: “Connection”.
Feeling connected to myself, to my family, Oli, friends, work, my community . . . it feels like such a good word to guide 2020.
Here’s how I plan on putting it into action . . .
“Connection” ~ My Word of The Year 2020
5 Ways I’m Hoping To “Connect” More
Connecting with myself
My Mum always says that the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself. (As does Carrie Bradshaw! Two super smart ladies ????????!)
In order to show up in any area of your life in the fullest way possible, you need to prioritise yourself.
I feel like I’ve always been pretty good at this, but this year I want to focus in on it even more.
Here are a few of the ways I plan on doing this: meditation, exercise, technology-free time, pursuing creative hobbies like painting and DIY-ing, a gentle de-clutter of things I’ve been hanging on to for too long (I’m sentimental like that!), leaning in to whatever emotions or instincts I’m feeling. Making sure that I’m regularly topping up my energy, and generally prioritising the things, thoughts and people that make me feel like the best version of me.
Connecting with Oli
Planning a wedding is no small task, and last year I felt like I had another full-time job on the side.
Now that we’re officially married, and all of that planning is behind me, I want to enjoy this first year fully as husband and wife.
Here’s how I plan on connecting more with Oli this year: phone-free dates, prioritising conversation that isn’t about schedules or chores (ha!), making an effort to think about the things Oli loves to do – and then making them happen! Having regular adventures to make new memories together. Organising and printing our wedding album. Spending time together as a couple, and also with mutual friends. Taking some time out together, be that a few days away or a longer holiday. And ideally – booking/going on our honeymoon!
Connecting with friends and family
Like I said, having 60+ of your friends and family out with you in Menorca is pretty darn amazing. I couldn’t stop smiling, and the day after our wedding I just burst into tears thinking about how kind everyone had been!
This year I want to make those connections a priority, as well as nurturing new friendships and connecting friends who I think will get on, to one another.
Here’s how: being in touch regularly, posting birthday cards and cards to celebrate other milestones and successes. Introducing friends to other friends, especially if they’re new to an area. Spending quality time with my besties. Attending weddings this year, and pouring love and attention into them all.
Connecting to my career
I turn 30 later this week, and as such I feel like I’m well into the swing of my career.
I’ve been working since I was 16 (literally started my first shop job on my 16th birthday! Keen!), but in terms of this chapter as a blogger, I’ve been going for nine years.
Over that almost-decade, blogging has been my constant, but I’ve done lots of other things too. Including: working in TV, co-founding a conference, consulting for small businesses, launching a product line, copywriting, teaching workshops and co-hosting a podcast. I’m probably forgetting a few in there too, ha!
A while back I read an article by Emma Gannon which introduced the idea of shifting focus to your ‘career’, as opposed to your ‘job’. I very much feel like that’s the work vibe I’ve got going on!
Yes I have a job, but more than that I have a career, which has plenty of ebbs and flows. I love that it changes regularly, and that I’m open to opportunities and ideas as they crop up.
This year I’m keeping my mind open to just about everything, and at the same time I’m focusing on projects that I really feel a ‘connection’ with.
Here’s how “connection” factors into my work life in 2020: prioritising projects which feel genuine and authentic. Pursuing creative projects (for the passion of them). Connecting more to my existing clients, and building my relationships with new ones. Making introductions. Producing content which I feel instinctively connected to.
Connecting to my community
When you work in the digital world, it can feel like the number next to your name is equivalent to your ‘worth’. In some ways it is (hiii partnerships!), but in MANY ways it’s not.
I’ve already felt a shift in how I’m viewing my online community: I feel super invested in getting to know the people who are following me, and who I follow too.
I don’t take it for granted that people are choosing to read my blog, or comment on my Instagram posts. Equally, I don’t want to be passive if I really connect with the content someone’s putting out there. So this year I’m focusing on connecting more with my community, and reaching out more to people who I feel a connection with too.
Here’s how: producing content I feel personally invested in. Producing content regularly. Taking the time to get to know people who support me and the blog by commenting back, checking out their profiles, and replying thoughtfully to DMs. I’m thinking about in-person meet-ups this year too. Would you be interested?! LMK. Commenting on other peoples’ work, and sending supportive messages to people who I feel inspired by.
Connecting more thoughtfully with myself, and the people in my life, is something I’m super excited for this year.
One of my favourite authors and podcasters Gretchen Rubin often cites that relationships are one of our greatest happiness-boosters, and working on the relationships in my life (both personal and professional) feels like it’s going to be a really good focus for 2020.
Whoop! Word of the Year 2020, I like you!
WHAT’S YOUR TAKE?
Have you chosen your Word of the Year 2020? If so, what’s yours? If not, what are you focusing on this year?
I’d love to know!
Love, Monica x
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