Dress: ‘Fergie’ Beaded Full Length Dress by Phase Eight
Whenever there is a big event looming – be it a client meeting, a fancy dinner or a black tie do – it’s normal to feel some nerves.
Butterflies can be good! They can give you that extra nudge to ace a meeting, or make you feel that bit more engaged in a conversation.
What you don’t want are nerves which will spoil the occasion. You want to ace that meeting, enjoy that dinner or have a truly magical evening at that black tie do!
I’ve had my fair share of occasions where my nerves have tarnished an event, and on reflection it’s always such a shame! In a bid to help you to create confidence for your next engagement, so that you can fully enjoy yourself, I am sharing my number one tip for quashing nerves.
I am so thrilled to be partnering with Phase Eight on this post, and sharing another stunning gown, this time from Phase Eight’s Collection 8 range. Next time you have an occasion which you need a ‘knockout dress’ for (think Blake Lively’s Serena van der Woodsen vibes) Collection 8 is your destination. The dresses are beyond beautiful, the craftsmanship is phenomenal and for the work and designs these dresses are some of the most reasonably priced you will find.
This stunning Collection 8 ‘Fergie’ beaded gown had me channeling those Blake vibes – in my mind at least 😆!
If you too have a big occasion coming up, be sure to click through to Phase Eight’s occasion wear and read on for my number one tip for creating confidence before a big event.
My Number One Confidence Tip
“Radiate Your Love”
“Radiate Your Love” is a mantra I live by.
It’s a turn of phrase I made up in order to calm my nerves before a big meeting I was headed to years ago.
When I say I live by it – I genuinely repeat it to myself on a daily basis, and always before a big occasion.
“Radiate Your Love” – What does it mean?
“Radiate your love” means being responsible for your own actions only, showing up as your best self and sharing that with others.
Be it business or personal, the only way you can show up to anything fully is to simply be yourself.
“Radiate Your Love” is my method for being wholeheartedly me.
How does it work?
Rather than being concerned as to how others will view you (a sure fire way to spoil your own fun!) this mantra helps you to simply enjoy meeting others when being yourself.
You can only be you, and rather than trying to please others or ‘try on’ a different persona for a meeting or event, if you focus on ‘radiating’ yourself and your own values, you will make connections with people who truly ‘get you’.
My sole intention is to share as many ‘good vibes’ with others as I can.
It may sound like a slightly ‘woo woo’ theory (as one of my favourite podcasters Jess Lively would say), but I believe that we each have something valuable and wonderful to contribute to every conversation and event. Don’t be shy to be yourself, it’s only by ‘radiating your love’ that people can get to know you and your uniqueness.
“Radiate your love” means being responsible for your own actions only,
showing up as your best self and sharing that with others.”
Give people the opportunity to get to know you. You are only responsible for yourself.
The ‘Radiate Your Love’ technique, has helped me to feel so much calmer before events, and reminded me of why I interact with people in the first place. I want to make genuine connections with people whose company I enjoy.
Now I think “how can I share the best version of me with this person, or these people?”. As long as I am acting with that in mind, I know there is no more I can do.
Since I have been following this method I have had a LOT more fun at events, and made much truer connections with people I actually want to stay in touch with.
What’s Your Take?
I’d love to know – do you have a confidence technique you use when headed to big events or occasions?
What’s your take on the ‘radiate your love’ theory?
You can check out the whole Phase Eight occasion wear range here. Truly, it’s so so beautiful – I know you’ll find a dress (or ten!) you’ll fall for.
Love, Monica x
Thank you to Phase Eight for sponsoring this post.
Photography by Marlene Lee.
Shot on location at Lainston House.